Lately the question that pops up is when will be my wedding bells? My answer is no where near soon or later in fact. Are you people CRAZY? I'm just 21 y/o. Only be finishing degree in 6months. Unemployed and mostly I love my home too much to be staying else where. I fully understand how society view the goodness of early marriage, even in religious point, I do see it. People, love alone isn't sufficient or good enough reason to be wedded. Tie up the knot when two people are ready, not just to be called husband and wife but also to bear to commitment that comes along w it. To be frank, marriage kinda freak me out, like seriously the chances of having the 'till the end of life' or those happily ever after thingy is slimmer than the chances of winning a lottery. Exactly how many people are truly content in jumping to marriage after years went by. Oh well, don't get me wrong here. I do dream of my own wedding bells. Maybe another few years more to go I guess. By that time, my friends will be having 2,3 children and I'm just starting up. The idea of it seems to sit just right w me. I won't get a perfect one since nothing is ever perfect but at least I'm well prepared for it. Yea, sure it's lovely to have someone you love by your side every single day but it's also fun when monthly bills aren't meet and arguments are followed up after that. Or maybe the interest is fading from one side after awhile or even realization of your significant other isn't like what you expected now that you're living together. See, what I mean? I'm not saying that long years of courtship will help out, some people do end up together even after 2weeks together. We can only plan but it is decided by the Almighty Allah. All I'm laying out is don't jump into it unless you're well prepared in mentally, physically, financially and lastly your heart. Earthlings, love alone doesn't make the world go round, but it does make it worth the ride. Never rush, if it's meant to be, it will be then.
If ever one fine day, years from now my day would come, simple wedding w families and close friends is all I'm asking for. I rather spend unreasonable amount of expenses on vacation w my beloved than putting such huge ceremony to feed crowd of people whom I didn't even know well and some fancy decoration only to be used for few hours. Well, this won't be happening any time in 5 years, so I worry about it later on.
To dearest BIG, relax. Take all time you needed. I'm in not a hurry, we both know that. If HE decided we're gonna end up together, I wanna love you throughout our life together. InsyaAllah.
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